Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Is He Cheating On You

At one point or another, many people have cause to wonder if their partner is cheating on them. In the case of a guy cheating on his girlfriend, the signs are often fairly obvious to someone who is looking for them, and who knows what to look for. The following is a list of some areas to take a closer look at if you suspect that your guy might be cheating on you. Keep in mind that (for the most part) any one or even a couple of these things taken on their own is probably not an indication that there is cheating going on, as there can be several reasons for most of the things on the list occurring. However, what you really need to look for are a combination of several of the following tips; several of these events or occurrences happening simultaneously (and often in a sustained way) is a good indication that there might be some infidelity going on.


* Distance. When you are with your boyfriend, does he seem like he is far away? This can happen when you are alone and even when you are with friends and family. His attention will wander, or you will catch him just staring off into space (make sure he is not just watching a television). He might be acting more loving towards you than ever before (a compensation for guilt) or he could be acting like he wishes you were not there at all (he's thinking of someone else).

* Tension. Things that you would never have fought over not so long ago are all of a sudden major flashpoints in the relationship. Fights seem easier to start, and much harder to get over. Look for strange behavior after a fight as well; especially if he leaves for a long time during one.

Intimate differences

* One big telltale of a cheat is that all of a sudden, the intimate relationship will change. Suddenly, he seems a lot less interested in the physical parts of your relationship.

* Cheaters are often eager to break out of an embrace. Unlike previously, when you would hold each other for a while and had fun just kissing, these small signs of affection will diminish or disappear, because someone else is receiving the real affection now.

Physical Details

Physical details are one of the most obvious signs of a cheat. They are pretty easy to spot, but look out because he will be aware that you are looking for something if you don't do it really carefully.

* Is he all of a sudden taking an interest in dressing differently, or putting on a new scent?

* Pay attention to his appearance. Is he noticeably ruffled when returning from somewhere, in ways that raise your suspicions? Most guys don't know it, but there are certain changes in the way our hair goes when we have been intimate with someone. You are bound to have picked up on this at some point in your relationship.

* Be especially suspicious of a clean, well-groomed man in times when no shower should have taken place. Guys are aware that the smell of another woman will linger, so a shower will be important after he leaves her. Look out for clean behavior!

When it comes to cheating, you should be able to trust your instincts. Your subconscious will be handing you dozens of different cues and clues when your relationship changes; most people are not really surprised when the affair is confirmed, because they really already knew. It is important to say again, but do not just assume that an affair is to blame for any of the above. An misplaced confrontation might be just the push to actually get him to cheat. Try not to accuse until you know for sure.
By Alex Daniels